Manifest Mondays

Today is the day of the total solar eclipse and I’m pretty excited! I’m not excited because I’ve never experienced one before. I have because I was alive and well 38 years ago. And hopefully I’ll be alive and well in 2024 to see the next one. That will make at least 3 total solar eclipses (with totality over North America) in my lifetime. Pretty dope, huh?
But what makes this eclipse extra special for me is that it’s happening while the Sun is in LEO, my sign. It’s also a Leo new moon, the second consecutive one, which is also rare. According to all the astrologers and seers, this is supposed to be a truly special time for me, and I can feel it! I’ve experienced lots of change and lots of revelation, and not all of them were good. I even suffered a motorcycle burn on my leg and got stung by a bee (I”m allergic) during this cycle. Had some crazy financial issues. Lost a few friends and watched others suffer. Had my own personal issues.
But none of it is getting me down.
I’m practicing my yoga and meditation and remembering to breathe. And things are steadily moving forward! I’m getting responses in my job search (because a sister has to fund her entrepreneurial efforts and prepare for her kid to go to college in 2019, PLUS survive his uber-expensive private school, to which $15K in scholarships still doesn’t cover everything!!). I feel stronger emotionally, especially in regards to what behaviors in others I’ll put up with. And I feel confident in my abilities and in my future.
I just ended a 9 year cycle when I turned *gasp* 45 on August 16th. I can really feel the completion of one phase in my life as I move into another one. And I want to max that energy. Solar eclipses and new moons are excellent times to create magic in your own life, so here are a few things I plan on doing today.
  1. Drinking a big glass of iced matcha and also energizing a batch of that, regular tea and water outside to soak up the eclipses energy. I’ll drink it later.
  2. Eating lots of green things and raw and electric foods.
  3. Taking a spiritual bath. I make my own powders, oils and Florida waters, so I’ll be soaking up a batch of my top secret mojo, but a simple bath that anyone can take is water with salt, vinegar (apple cider or white), baking soda and essential oils. You can use all or one of these items, the important thing is to use your mind properly as you bathe. Manifest good things and focus on them.
  4. Working on a solar eclipse vision board.
  5. Goal setting.
  6. Yoga, prayer and meditation.
  7. Work!!
What are you doing to celebrate the eclipse? Sound off in the comments section below!

I’m so excited to tell you guys about a challenge I’m involved in. Now before you moan and groan about another internet challenge, don’t! This isn’t about dumping ice water on yourself, or planking, or doing a goofy dance. This is about taking care of yourself from the inside out. Who doesn’t need to do more of that?

My fabulous, fit and fine cousin, Dr. Charrell Joseph of has issued a new challenge for the month of May. It’s the OnSELFish 5×5 Self Care Challenge which challenges participants to do 5 things toward self care, 5 times a week for the entire month of May. Click play for details!

Now tell me, are you up for the challenge? Make sure to like and follow her page at On_Self_Ish for details about how to make the most out of your challenge, as well as updates about giveaways. She’s already filled me in on what she’s giving away, and trust me, you don’t want to miss out! And you won’t be alone. I’m participating as well, and I’m throwing a lil’ sumpin sumpin of my own into the mix because I got inspired, so keep your eyes on this space or my Facebook page for upcoming details.

joyce-meyer-quoteI love this quote by Joyce Meyer because I am so very serious about controlling my thoughts. Sometimes I’m really good at it, other times, not so much…

For example when my guy does something that upsets me I will run it over and over in my mind. I’ll pick it apart and find every flaw in his words or actions. I’ll examine and assign motives without even communicating with him and before long I’m swimming in a cesspool of negative emotions. I suck right? You better had said “No!” Because I don’t suck! And neither do you because I know you do the exact same thing. C’mon. Admit it!

But what good does filling my mind with negative thoughts do? NONE!

It doesn’t change the situation and only serves to make me re-mad (I know that isn’t a word but I say it all the time and you know exactly what I mean). So I’m basically fuming and fussing (and cussing) about the same thing on multiple occasions. By this time, my guy has tuned out because that’s generally what people do when they get nagged about the same thing over and over again. And nothing changes. At least not for the better.

But I’ve noticed that things definitely not only improve but transform when I stop focusing on what is making me angry or upset with him and turn that focus onto something wonderful that is going on in my life. Because filling up my headspace with something that I’m happy about is so much more productive than filling it with negativity!

This change in focus isn’t just a relationship fix though. Guarding your thoughts and making sure that the bad ones don’t get in your head works miracles with your career and your finances!

Imagine how much a salesperson can sell if they meet their clients with an upbeat and positive attitude instead of appearing defeated before they even make a pitch. I’ve known quite a few successful salespeople and they always walk into their meetings the picture of confidence and capability. They claim the sale before they set foot on the client’s premises.

And we’ve all heard the saying, “It takes money to make money!” That’s because money is a magnet if you look at it properly. Some people look at that saying from a totally skewed perception, and think that they can’t prosper because they don’t have enough money. But the saying doesn’t say, “It takes a lot of money to make money.” It doesn’t even say you have to have enough money. It just says it takes some. So even if you’re down to your last penny, you still have some money and the ability to make some more. Don’t you know someone who always seems to land on their financial feet no matter what comes their way? I bet they didn’t have a negative attitude!

So how do you do it? After all, filling your mind with positive thoughts when your world is falling apart ain’t easy. Or is it? It can be!

Here are some tips to keep your mind overflowing with positive thoughts!

Identify negative thought patterns
Chances are you already know the negative self-talk you engage in. Thoughts like, “I hate my job and I’ll be stuck here forever!” or “I’m never going to find a man.” Be honest about all the bullshit you tell yourself about yourself, your life situation and about others. Journaling is an excellent way to monitor the things that go on in your head.

Stop that stinkin’ thinkin’!
There’s no good in identifying negative thoughts if you aren’t going to stop thinking them. You’re not identifying them to dwell on them! So when the dark clouds start to gather in your head, send in a gust to blow them away! Distract yourself with art or poetry or music. Bust a move in the living room or the bathroom or your car. You can even literally say out loud to yourself, “STOP!” Do what you must, but cut the crappy cerebral action STAT!

Retrain your brain!
Identifying negative thought patterns isn’t enough. And stopping the thoughts isn’t enough. (Yeah there’s a little work to this filling the mind with good things, but it’s worth it!) You’ve got to replace those negative thought patterns with positive ones. This may mean saying out loud or writing your replacement thought. I’m a big fan of writing things because it also trains the brain that you are acting on something. It makes things more tangible and lasting. Instead of complaining that you’re overweight, try saying, “I’m eating healthy and working out and I feel great! My body is changing already from the inside out.” Maybe you aren’t really doing these things, but if you keep saying it or writing it, you will start to! It’s like the great prophet and Funkateer George Clinton said, “Free your mind and your ass will follow.” (*Young heads, please look up George Clinton and don’t make me feel old!)

Use your words!
Your vocabulary is everything! Change the way you talk, change your life! Stop saying things like “I can’t” and “I don’t have” and “I don’t know how”. Statements like these are really limiting and have no business coming out of your mouth! Say “I can” or my favorite “I AM!” I think that those are two of the most powerful words in the universe because what ever follows you must become. You’ll feel great, I promise! Try it! Say, “I am beautiful!” “I am wealthy!” “I have a great life!” Feels good huh? If it doesn’t, keep on saying it until you start to tingle a little.

Make some Lemonade!
It’s amazing how many women love Beyonce’s Lemonade but aren’t aware that they don’t actually have to be Yonce (See what I did there?) in order to manifest their own experience of turning a negative to a positive in their own lives. Lost your job? Start a business! The work you have to put it won’t give you enough time to cry over the spilled milk of a gig that is now a part of your past. Broke up with your BF or GF? Relish being single! Travel and do all the things you planned to do with your significant other by your dammy! When things don’t turn out quite the way we desire the first time, we can try again or adjust or dreams (by making them bigger – I don’t believe in downgrading my fantasies!).

Well ladies and gents, I hope you’re feeling full of positive energy! Oops! Let me adjust my language. I KNOW you’re feeling full of positive energy. You’re ready to tackle anything that comes your way. So what are you sitting around reading for? C’mon go-getters, get going!

It’s funny that all over Chicago I see stuff like this:

An image I captured on a Chicago street
An image I captured on a Chicago street

Messages from God, or at least from conscious graffiti artists, are real. I can hold a grudge like nobody’s business. If you do me wrong, I will not forget it and chances are I won’t let you forget it either. Sometimes, I’ll remind you of how wrong you are every, single time that I see you. Others, I’ll wait for the opportune moment to strike back like a viper.

Pretty terrible, huh? I can admit it. I’m human. Just like you are. Just like the people who do us wrong in life. And God isn’t finished with any of us yet! Can you sense where I’m going with this? No one is perfect. People make mistakes. And even when they don’t acknowledge or apologize for said mistakes, you’ve still got to find a way to forgive them.

Some of you are balking already. You might not feel like you can forgive everyone, especially if the person was your abuser or rapist or someone who harmed someone that you love. And I feel you. Trust me, I FEEL you! But stick with me for a second so I can explain to you what I mean by forgiveness.

Forgiving doesn’t necessarily mean forgetting. It means detaching yourself from the pain and negativity that accompanied the grievance. There’s no real reason to hold on to negativity. What purpose does it serve? How does it help you grow? It doesn’t. So forgiveness becomes really important if you want to be your best self. You’ve got to get rid of negative energy and refuse to carry it around with you because holding a grudge can be like drinking poison and expecting someone else to get sick.

Now, don’t get me wrong. Forgiving doesn’t mean you aren’t mad. Sometimes anger is cleansing. Sometimes it is more harmful to pretend that you aren’t hurt or angry or upset, because you are lying to yourself and those are the worst kinds of lies. The one person in life you can not, you must not lie to, is yourself. It’s pretty fruitless because you know the truth and you’re betraying your spirit when you lie to yourself.

This past year, oh who am I kidding, my entire life, I’ve taken the bumps and bruises served out by some people who didn’t have my best interest in mind. It angered me. And I carried the bitterness for way too long. Today I can say I’m a better person, still a work in progress, but better none the less.

So I challenge you to forgive someone, or at least begin the work it takes to forgive someone this week. How? Here are some tips:

    • Take a deep breath. As you exhale, picture all the negative energy leaving your body. As you inhale, imagine all the wonderful things life has to offer entering your body.
    • Write down all the things that caused you pain or grief or anger. Put the paper in a glass bowl and burn it while praying to a higher power to release the bad feelings and renew you with good feelings. Then flush the ashes.
    • Learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes. Sometimes, our lack of forgiveness isn’t even about another person, it’s about being mad at yourself. Stop that shit! Give yourself a break. Love yourself.
    • Go near a body of  water and meditate as you watch the waves ebb and flow. If you can’t do that, go for a dip in a pool or take a bath or a shower. Relax in the water and imagine it washing away all the negativity.
    • Avoid negative energy at all costs. If you live with negative people, shorten your contact with them and practice loving them from a distance. Even if this negative person is a parent, you can still love them while lessening your interaction with them. Yes, they’ll probably notice your distance, and they might call you on it. Tell them you are focusing on becoming a better person for yourself and ask them to not take it personally. You’re just trying to grow. The old, “it’s not you, it’s me” line works wonders here. And if it gets too bad, consider cutting them off in a more distinct way.
    • Understand that misery loves company and hurt people, hurt people. Don’t take what someone else did to you personally. It’s probably more about them than you.
    • Listen to this song and let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go…

So are you up for the challenge? What do you need to let go of today? And if you’ve got tips for others, please share them in the comments below.

Peace & Positive Vibes,


The word meta, pronounced “metta,” is a bit different than my name, which is pronounced “may-tah,” but I love the former as much as the latter, especially because of the meaning.

Now, the meaning of my name is pretty awesome: it means sparkling like a rare jewel in Swahili. But the meaning of meta as a Greek prefix is probably a bit more awesome than my name. It means beyond, as in taking things to a higher level. And that’s what a productive life is!

Being productive is what the #MetaMondayChallenge is truly all about, not just putting my name in a hashtag. LOL! By making the first day of the workweek more productive, we are laying the foundation for a more productive week. And, we all need those!

This past week, I discovered a movie on YouTube, called The Meta Secret (it took zero prompting for me to click and see what that was all about!). It’s a continuation of the movie The Secret. The Meta Secret isn’t produced and directed by the same people as The Secret, but Bob Proctor, one of the stars of The Secret is behind it.

If you’re needing some motivation that goes beyond visualizing where you want to be, and you’re curious about The Law of Attraction, check this out! It will definitely give you some stuff to chew on.

Note: There’s a part in the YouTube video where the dialogue isn’t in English and English subtitles are covered with Thai subtitles, so you won’t really be able to completely get what they’re saying unless you speak Japanese or Thai, but DVD copies/rental of this movie are available at You can also check out the book at

You can also study these concepts in more depth by reading The Kybalion, which is widely published on the internet for free.


Happy #MetavationMonday! Manifest greatness! And as always, peace & positive vibes!

Manifest Mondays are all about dreaming, setting a goal for the week and attracting positive vibes. I believe that Monday can be the best day of the week…yes, even better than Saturday and Sunday!

A lot of people don’t like Mondays, and I get it. The weekend is over. The workweek is beginning. The daily grind resumes. And if you’re anything like I used to be, you’re familiar with the feeling that there’s just not enough of that fun, free, feeling of the weekend present during the week.

Well, it doesn’t have to be that way.

Monday can become your favorite day of the week.

Don’t believe me? Watch how I prove you wrong. Mondays can be the most productive day of your week instead of a day you dread. All it takes is a little bit of work. I know, I know, you’ve already got enough work to do without some chick online telling you that you’ve got to do some more. But if you stick with me a bit, you’ll see that not doing this little bit of work now will actually add to the amount of work you’ll have to do later. A simple exercise could make the difference between living the life you want to live or continuing down a path of boredom, frustration and unhappiness.

If you stick with me through this exercise you’ll see that together we’re going to transform your Mondays! I’m not saying your entire life will change by Tuesday morning, but it’s well within the realm of possibility, especially if all your life needs is a little tweak to the routine.

Do me a favor. Grab a piece of paper and write down all the things that make your Mondays less than extraordinary. Go ahead and let it all out, but make sure to number each gripe that you have. It should feel good to let it go and get it all out. But you’re not going to stop there. Now I want you to look over your list and pick the ONE thing that drives you the absolute craziest about Monday. Pinpoint your biggest bugaboo.

Now on a clean sheet of paper, write down today’s date. Write down that big gripe you have at the top of the paper. Now, use the rest of the paper to write down all the ideas you can think of about how you can fix that gripe. Because there’s absolutely no sense in griping about something that is within your power to be changed.

Maybe what sucks the joy out of Monday is that you feel stressed and overwhelmed with all the things that you have to do that week. That can be pretty easy to fix if you let it be. You could try simple solutions such as:

  • Prepare meals for the week on Sunday and packaging them in a way that makes cooking a no-brainer during the week.
  • Populate your calendar with all the appointments that you know you will have during the week and set reminders about the important ones.
  • Create a to-do list for the week (To de-stress Monday even further, do this on Sunday or even Saturday)
  • Get as many household chores done during the weekend as possible. Enlist in your family to help you if you have a family, because more than likely they are contributing to the mess! Or call a housekeeping service to help you manage the load.
  • Make sure you get enough sleep on Sunday night so that you wake up Monday morning feeling refreshed.
  • If you hit up a Sunday day party, the way I love to do, make sure to give yourself a cutoff time for drinking. Trust me, giving your body a few extra hours to detox from indulging in alcohol and munchy bar food never hurt anyone.

The list goes on, but I think you’re starting to get the idea. A simple change here and there can make all the difference in the world. But what if your gripe about Monday is that you have to return to a dead end job that is sucking the life out of you? Well, that can be changed too! I’ve done it myself and I can can show you how to do the same thing!

I’m going to challenge you to transform your Mondays. I welcome you to share your gripes, questions, solutions and success stories on Instagram and Twitter. Just make sure to use the hashtag #MetaMondayChallenge so I can read how well you’re doing, and if you’re not doing so well, maybe I can lend a hand to help make things a little bit better. The and because I’m not perfect, I’m going to challenge myself too! Although I love Mondays there’s no reason for me to not try to make them as awesome as possible.

My Biggest Monday Gripe is: I’m always running late for whatever I have to do on Monday, mostly because I had too much fun on Sunday! This has a tendency to throw my entire week off! I don’t prepare enough for the week ahead because my weekends are spent either working or being social. Another reason I run late is because I can never figure out what I’m going to wear. So I’m doing things differently this week. I am actually writing this on Sunday afternoon while a Snapped! marathon plays in the background. I’m going to do all my laundry – meaning I will wash, dry, iron, fold and hang up everything (I usually take the lazy way out. Hey! Nobody’s perfect!) and make sure to knock out a few blogs posts as well and schedule them to post automatically. That ought to free up a lot of time during the week, make things run more smoothly and keep this blog popping with content.

So let’s get cracking! We’re going to work at this every Monday, until we work backward from our biggest gripe to our smallest. Once we get this big hurdle out of the way first, all the other hurdles will seem small in comparison.

Good Luck!

Peace & Positive Vibes,